Posted by ayzika on October 30, 2009, 7:17 am, in reply to "the problem is " So maybe those folks who think every post is about them need to take a deep breath are realize that not everyone is talking about them all the time.
Message modified by user ayzika October 30, 2009, 8:31 am
While we are on the topic, I really would like to say a word about people misperceiving that general posts are about them and blowing up the situation.
I want to mention one example of how stuff like this gets carried away.
More than a year ago, I put up a post about something that had occurred when a bunch of us got together in NYC. The title of the post was along the lines of "Sunday's AJ gathering". The text said, "this is about something that happened at Sunday's AJ gathering". No one who actually had the presence of mind and patience to read the post would have missed that the post discussed an incident which took place during the get together.
You know what? A woman who was NOT at the gathering angrily posted, asking how I could say such things about her. I responded by pointing out that it was obvious I wasn't speaking about her because the post discussed something that had taken place at the gathering and she was NOT there.
Did she catch her breath? No. She remained unreasonable and infuriated, putting up several posts ackowledging that she hadn't been there, but insisting that I was speaking about her nonetheless. In one of them, she said she was leaving the board because of me.
Several of her friends saw the thread. Did they post to tell her that I could not possibly have been speaking about her, because I was speaking about an event at which she had not been present? NO. They yelled at me, saying that it was all my fault that she was leaving. Not one of them had been at the gathering, either.
To top it all off, the woman posted a day or two later to ask people to excuse her behavior, which she attributed to an issue with her medication.
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