Posted by Michie on October 30, 2009, 12:27 am, in reply to "I'm Gulity Too. I Recognize I Didn't Add to the Solution."
I respect you alot, but you did seem to exasperate the situation by jumping in when not needed or asked for. I have learned from this board and irl, sometimes our opinions are not needed or wanted. I'm glad you recognised where you didn't help things at all. Peace!
Michie
--Previous Message--
: I will apologize to the board for my
: participation in yesterday’s upheaval. I
: suppose I am have lingering resentment that
: when a valued-poster is harassed, badgered,
: targeted, and other than a short “time-outs”
: or posts are removed, the individuals on the
: end of the shot-gun are welcomed back, and
: the targeted individual deems the board too
: unsafe to participate any longer. They
: leave, they tire and they are basically
: intimidated.
:
: As of late, I’ve witness three women in a
: span of less than a month, discontinue their
: participation here. Are they too busy to
: join in? Maybe? Are there lives so full and
: rich that they no longer need/want to post?
: I hope so? My guess is they left, they tired
: and they are basically were intimidated,
: don’t feel welcome or it just wasn’t worth
: it.
:
: Neither is Portia, Amy, SIGO or 99% of the
: women that come here are a menace to the
: board. The women that come here don’t
: deserve to be hammered, patronized,
: demeaned, talked down to or made to believe
: that the LGBTQ community knows more about
: their life then they do. You want to help?
: Know your audience.
:
: I also find it hard to be an idle by-stander
: watching/reading what happens to women here,
: under the guise of “if they don't actually
: KNOW and HEAR FROM and have dialog with
: anyone IN the LGBTQ community”. I’m all for
: dialogue, but it rarely stays a dialogue; it
: turns into character assassinations, and
: indictments of individual personal lives and
: an inability to “let it go” from all sides.
:
: I’m guilty too. I get I also can’t let it
: go when I see blatant targeting, and sure I
: could have handle it differently yesterday,
: you betcha’! Although, I would bet I’m one
: of minority of people who have been
: out/proud close to 25 years, and I don’t
: feel the need to berate, target, talk down
: to, and bludgeoned women with my views for
: being exactly where they are in their life.
: What I have learned during my tenure here at
: AJ is exactly what I can offer and what I
: can’t.
:
: I’ve learned that not everyone will come out
: who arrive here. We discussed this yesterday
: that the percentage of women who will
: actually come out via this board is
: super-low. Let’s accept that. Trust me,
: coming out is a personal thing, and if this
: board has taught us anything, its AJ won’t
: change the low numbers of women coming out
: here. AJ doesn’t make women come out, it
: supports those that are ready and willing to
: accept who they are to come out. It’s here
: for support, web sites aren’t catalyst for
: coming out. Coming out is personal.
:
: I’ve also learned a huge amount about myself
: from this board. HUGE. I’ve also learned
: what it means to watch someone you love
: suffer gracefully on daily basis, all the
: while enduring the estrangement of her only
: daughter in order to be exactly who she is
: and in order to love and share her life with
: me.
:
: I’ve also learned that I am not perfect
: either. Okay, I knew that before I came to
: AJ, LOL! AJ simply reinforces that
: education for me, for the good, bad and
: well, ugly.
:
: I will apologize to curious and Ayzika. I
: don’t believe you are villains. I do believe
: you contribute mightily to the board, and
: yes sometimes you don’t always add to the
: board’s stability. I also get that my
: participation yesterday didn’t add much to
: the stability of the board either. Two
: wrongs don’t make a right. LOL!
:
: I feel very strongly about this board, its
: purpose, its ability to saves lives on many,
: many levels. I believe in the power of women
: and how collectively we can change
: ourselves, not try to change others.
:
: So again, I am sorry and I will continue to
: make strong efforts to only add to the
: board's stability and support where I can,
: know when I can’t and of course to have the
: wisdom to know the difference. Lastly, I
: apologize to Joanne, your talents, skills,
: and expertise are needed elsewhere and
: babysitting a support forum is not a good
: use of your time. I am sorry.
:
: As always, upwards and onwards, always it’s
: a new day to get it right. I have a major
: party to throw so I will divert my attention
: to that.
:
: RD
: Cc:joanne@lavendervisions.com
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