Posted by Sasha1 on October 29, 2009, 5:27 pm, in reply to "Veiled? Not really LARGELY EDITED"
Anything that talks about what another person "needs" is really scary to me and definiteky crosses boundaries. To talk about your own needs is valid, I don't think any of us should presume to know what the needs of others are. We are not hear to "teach" each other. We are here to support each other through our own experiences. If someone chooses to delve deeper into the LBGT world, there are a million ways for them to do that. Force feeding them won't help.
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: I also find it hard to be an idle by-stander
: watching/reading what happens to women here,
: under the guise of "if they don't
: actually
: KNOW and HEAR FROM and have dialog with
: anyone IN the LGBTQ community."
:
: The COMPLETE quote was, "How the heck
: are they supposed to 'go through the natural
: process of questioning and learning what's
: right for their own lives' -- which could
: include becoming members of the LGBT
: community -- if they don't actually KNOW and
: HEAR FROM and have dialog with anyone IN the
: LGBT community?"
:
: I would appreciate you using your own words
: to convey your point next time, RD.
:
: My concerns are valid and sincere. To
: insulate women who are exploring the
: possibility that they're "not
: straight" from the larger LGBT
: community, its dynamics, its benefits, its
: issues (for good or ill) is NOT helpful or
: respectful to their process.
:
: Would you keep them out of gay bars --
: because they could have a bad experience or
: be the butt of rude comments? Would you
: censor the books they can read -- because a
: particular passage may be painful to them?
: This is a public forum -- the same as those
: places -- and it's no less a source of the
: positive and/or negative information women
: need to help them make their decisions. They
: don't have engage with any poster here any
: more than they do a patron in a gay bar
: (they can leave) or a passage in a book
: (they can open and close the books they
: choose at will).
:
: Withholding potentially transformative
: information (including opinions) from people
: is a form of abuse.
:
: If Joanne wants to control the tone, tempo,
: look, feel, and nature of this board (in
: other words CENSOR the board), it should NOT
: be a public forum. She should hand pick the
: posters after some sort of screening
: process.
:
: SHE has created this place as an open,
: publicly accessible marketplace of opinions,
: experiences and ideas -- no less than a gay
: bar or a bookstore. She should run it that
: way and BUTT OUT. Or overhaul it (and
: actively, hands-on manage it) to be the
: restrictive environment she wants it to be.
: Or shut it down.
:
: JB
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