Posted by JB on October 29, 2009, 10:05 am, in reply to "I'm Gulity Too. I Recognize I Didn't Add to the Solution." Would you keep them out of gay bars -- because they could have a bad experience or be the butt of rude comments? Would you censor the books they can read -- because a particular passage may be painful to them? This is a public forum -- the same as those places -- and it's no less a source of the positive and/or negative information women need to help them make their decisions. They don't have engage with any poster here any more than they do a patron in a gay bar (they can leave) or a passage in a book (they can open and close the books they choose at will). If Joanne wants to control the tone, tempo, look, feel, and nature of this board (in other words CENSOR the board), it should NOT be a public forum. She should hand pick the posters after some sort of screening process. SHE has created this place as an open, publicly accessible marketplace of opinions, experiences and ideas -- no less than a gay bar or a bookstore. She should run it that way and BUTT OUT. Or overhaul it (and actively, hands-on manage it) to be the restrictive environment she wants it to be. Or shut it down. JB
Message modified by user JB October 29, 2009, 10:42 am
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: I also find it hard to be an idle by-stander
: watching/reading what happens to women here,
: under the guise of "if they don't actually
: KNOW and HEAR FROM and have dialog with
: anyone IN the LGBTQ community."
The COMPLETE quote was, "How the heck are they supposed to 'go through the natural process of questioning and learning what's right for their own lives' -- which could include becoming members of the LGBT community -- if they don't actually KNOW and HEAR FROM and have dialog with anyone IN the LGBT community?"
I would appreciate you using your own words to convey your point next time, RD.
My concerns are valid and sincere. To insulate women who are exploring the possibility that they're "not straight" from the larger LGBT community, its dynamics, its benefits, its issues (for good or ill) is NOT helpful or respectful to their process.
Withholding potentially transformative information (including opinions) from people is a form of abuse. 
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