Posted by pencils4sale on October 28, 2009, 4:25 pm, in reply to "my question for today- divorce/coming out to kids"
Hi there,
I guess I would echo everyone else... remember that your H thrives on control. He will ALWAYS act this way with you. Divorce or not, it is his pattern or interation with you, and I doubt he will change for the better. I am not surprised by his demand-- but it is not his choice. Would you expect him to not have another relationship "in front of" the kids? hardly.
Deal with it later-- when it comes up. For now there are so many layers of divorce to deal with... pace yourself. One major hurdle at a time.
You are going to show your children a loving, caring, authentic, beautiful self... and that is what they will know. The hatred and fears coming off your husband will be dealt with later... and he is nottttt the whole picture in your children's eyes.
How old are they again?
--Previous Message--
: my H and i are divorcing. He told me that he
: does not want my children exposed to any gay
: stuff. i.e. doesnt want kids to see me
: holding hands with a woman or kissing a
: woman. does not want them to know i am gay.
:
: i had been intending to come out to my
: children after the dust settled from the
: divorce.
: my h is worried because his religion
: condemns homosexuality; he doesnt want the
: kids to think it is acceptable.
:
: i would like to know everyone's thoughts on
: this situation. and those of you who have
: been through this please tell me of your
: experience.
:
: side note: he honestly thinks i am
: divorcing him because of the gay issue. lol.
: he does not believe that he has been
: abusive to me. this blows my mind.
:
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