Posted by Violet on October 27, 2009, 1:02 pm, in reply to "I HAVE BEEN VERY HURT AND BETRAYED BY MY PARENTS"
I agree with the need for a lawyer and a therapist. I can empethize with your pain. I have different circumstances but the pain is the same: when our parents reject us at this time it is so painful that it does feel like you are alone in the world. I have felt that too and it has contributed significantly to my process of coming out to myself and others. I think that might be why you don't take action or advice as its all so conflicting and confusing but it is essential that you think smart and clear. You can make a therapist appointment today and then you can make a attny appointment. Once that is done you can relax a bit. It will help. You will only feel more isloated the longer you wait to get your support system in place.
I made frequent misjudgments of others and also acted on feelings that made me more confused then less at times, and the abandonment from my family made it so much worse on one level. Once you have the fire in your belly that you are going to be ok and that you are going to rise above this then you will start making good choices and thinking clearly. Take a baby step today - whats the worse that can happen?
--Previous Message--
: last night was very bad, Ross handed me the
: parenting plan that he wanted me to work on
: (because he doesn't know how to) but he
: accidently handed me the WRONG papers, he
: handed me an Affidavit of my fathers' name.
: He got flustered and took it back and
: wouldn't let me see it. I called my father
: and it turns out that Ross met AT MY PARENTS
: HOUSE with my parents and his mother and his
: atty John Curtis for several hours a month
: ago. This was a betrayel to me because Ross
: and I agreed that WE (me and him) would meet
: with John together and that we would work
: everything out ourselves (and not get others
: involved). Not only did he not include me
: in this meeting, he had my OWN TWO PARENTS
: sign affidavits that I had come over to the
: house at 7AM to get the children (like i do
: EVERY day) hungover and that if the children
: were endangered than he would have full
: custody with me supervised visitation
: rights. I told my parents that they were
: dead to me, that I couldn't believe they
: would backstab their own daughter like this.
: Ross and my parents KNOW that i am not an
: alcoholic and that this only happened two
: times a month or two ago. I will never
: speak to my parents again. This was a bad
: scare for me. I took the kids to preschool
: today and am going to get a new phone and
: not go to drus again until after divorce
: goes through and i have the children
: tonight. That is all i care about, being
: with the children. I have about 60 names of
: women that i babysit for that can vouch for
: me. The preschool teachers rave about how
: nutritious the kids lunches are, i drop them
: off and pick them up every day. This is the
: ultimate deceit and lack of respect that i
: needed to seal it. I have nobody, am
: completely and utterly alone. Not only do i
: not have any REAL friends, i don't have my
: parents or anybody. All i have is my
: children, and i will be strong and not let
: them be taken from me. WATCH ME
: NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!
:
: i will not try to prevent Ross from having
: the children too, he is a good father, but i
: also have the right to be happy. I CANNOT
: BELIEVE MY OWN PARENTS WOULD DO SUCH AN
: UTTERLY HORRIBLE SICK AND TWISTED THING. I
: will never speak to them again.
:
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