Posted by upsidedown on October 27, 2009, 11:25 am, in reply to "my question for today- divorce/coming out to kids"
Message modified by user upsidedown October 27, 2009, 11:26 am
IT'S NOT HIS CHOICE.
Once you are divorced, O&R, you can live your life the way you choose. And, actually, this shouldn't depend on divorce but I realize it sometimes does. Live your life the best way for YOU. I realize there are a lot of dynamics at play here and it will take awhile to get there but ultimately, you MUST live your life for you.
I know you will do it in a way that is caring, loving, helpful and supportive for your kids. That is what is most important.
Having said that, get through the initial stuff first. This is probably going to take awhile so give yourself time to work through it all and tackle the 'gay' thing a little further down the road.
((hugs)) I am really excited for you and proud of you. Keep it up.
--Previous Message--
: my H and i are divorcing. He told me that he
: does not want my children exposed to any gay
: stuff. i.e. doesnt want kids to see me
: holding hands with a woman or kissing a
: woman. does not want them to know i am gay.
:
: i had been intending to come out to my
: children after the dust settled from the
: divorce.
: my h is worried because his religion
: condemns homosexuality; he doesnt want the
: kids to think it is acceptable.
:
: i would like to know everyone's thoughts on
: this situation. and those of you who have
: been through this please tell me of your
: experience.
:
: side note: he honestly thinks i am
: divorcing him because of the gay issue. lol.
: he does not believe that he has been
: abusive to me. this blows my mind.
:
