Posted by NS on October 27, 2009, 8:39 am, in reply to "my question for today- divorce/coming out to kids"
I don't know how old your children are so answers may vary depending on their ages.
Personally, I would get them through the divorce first. Mom and Dad love you very much but won't be living in the same house anymore, etc. Once they are OK with that then share the rest of the story with them. Once you are out from under your H's thumb you will be able to explain your feelings to them and model what a positive and loving relationship should look like. You should NOT hide this part of yourself from your kids; you should not be ashamed or apologetic. Doing that would only validate your H's homophobia and narrow-mindedness.
God is love. God loves you. Your H can not control your children's minds....it's time he realize that.
Stay strong, O&R.....keep moving forward...
NS
--Previous Message--
: my H and i are divorcing. He told me that he
: does not want my children exposed to any gay
: stuff. i.e. doesnt want kids to see me
: holding hands with a woman or kissing a
: woman. does not want them to know i am gay.
:
: i had been intending to come out to my
: children after the dust settled from the
: divorce.
: my h is worried because his religion
: condemns homosexuality; he doesnt want the
: kids to think it is acceptable.
:
: i would like to know everyone's thoughts on
: this situation. and those of you who have
: been through this please tell me of your
: experience.
:
: side note: he honestly thinks i am
: divorcing him because of the gay issue. lol.
: he does not believe that he has been
: abusive to me. this blows my mind.
:
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