Posted by michelle on October 20, 2009, 3:53 pm, in reply to "Dumped after divorce"
hi fun2sail,
im sorry about the pain and sadness you are feeling, and i can totally relate
i have to agree with hope, though. from what you say, i really get the feeling your exgf was rather rushed and flighty. i mean, she was engaged, met you, got married, got divorced within a year, was with you a year, and now she's on to someonw new?? she's left a string of broken hearts here, and i wouldnt be at all surprised if the woman she is with now (at this moment...don't want to project into the future too much here) will not be her last.
it is so easy to kick yourself and have regrets and put it all on yourself, and you will probably do this for a while. someday, though, i think you'll look back on your relationship and realize that something was amiss, and it wasn't just you. i hope you feel better.
--Previous Message--
: Hi everyone.
:
: I wanted to know whether any of you can
: offer insight, empathy, or advice for my
: situation. I spent a little over a year
: loving an amazing woman who I met just
: before her marriage to a man. A few months
: into her marriage, we confessed our feelings
: for one another, and began our romantic
: relationship. She moved out. She just
: finalized her divorce two months ago. Our
: entire relationship has been
: long distance since I am in grad school 1000
: miles away.
:
: The problem is, she dumped me three weeks
: ago for another woman! She said she wants to
: be with someone who is more
: excited about Big Issues like kids, moving
: in together, etc. . She has a point, but I
: thought we were working through these issues
: - and given our situation, I wanted/needed
: to take things slowly. This new woman is a
: friend of hers of several years who my
: now-ex is comfortable with, and who probably
: loves my ex. she's also telling my ex
: exactly what she wants to hear re: Big
: Issues (eg, they have already discussed this
: new woman's options for moving to my ex's
: home town!).
:
: I lam still very much in love with my ex,
: and I have no clue what to do or how to move
: on.
:
: Any thoughts?
:
: Thanks,
: Fun2Sail
:
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