Posted by meadow on October 20, 2009, 8:34 am
I was just having this conversation with myself. At what point do labels no longer matter? I love, love, love labels because the definitions help me understand. For example, I'm calling myself "Bi" because I find both women and men attractive. Bi makes sense. I dated guys in high school and still love one of my ex's (great friends only; deeper relationships don't work for us). I have been with women in the past.( I thought they were college phases, or that I just really admired my friends.) I have been married for two years, with him for six. Then why I am I constantly thinking about women lately? Is this part of the process?
--Previous Message--
: In one sense all my life. Though I was so
: deeply into denial that I didn't realize
: that I even WAS fighting it.
:
: It wasn't really a struggle when I realized
: I was attracted to women, it was like
: suddenly so many things in my life made more
: sense.
:
: The fight for me, actually came when I tried
: to force myself into a box. I thought that
: by admitting I was attracted to women, it
: meant that I must therefore not be attracted
: to men.
:
: So I would see an attractive man, and think
: "See, he's cute. I must not be gay
: after all." But then I would see a hot
: woman and think "um...so not
: straight". And I pretty much drove
: myself nuts for about 6 months.
:
: For me, it was important to learn that the
: label wasn't important, being true to myself
: was.
:
: --Previous Message--
: How long did you fight your sexuality before
: giving in?
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