Posted by soonbetonothing on October 19, 2009, 10:27 pm
I really need advice! I've come out to 6 people now... am still trying to work up the nerve to come out to my family... but I also don't know how to come out to the woman I'm attracted to. Any advice? A couple of people have told me that I need to resolve the intensity of the feelings I have for her. One woman suggested I tell her about my feelings as a way of being open and honest in our friendship, and so that I can start to move on.... I just don't know. I do feel like I should come out to her, but I think it's highly possible that she will know then (if she doesn't already) that I'm attracted to her. A lesbian woman said her gaydar was going off around this woman, and I can't help but wonder sometimes if she is also attracted to me, or struggling with her own sexual identity, or whether she married a man to hide it...
I don't want to create a mess, but at the same time I am already a mess... I have to see her every day, and it's getting excruciating. I also value our friendship, and it would be odd to come out to other friends and not to her. Not to mention that if I really want to be out, she's going to find out, and I'd really rather that she hear it from me than someone else. How do I do this?!! What precautions can I/should I take?
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